It’s a good thing I’m a wedding planner because my heart literally yearns for wedding season. It’s kind of obsessive.. last night I stayed up until 2am watching Friends on Netflix solely because it was the episode when Pheobe got married to Mike. Netflix guys… I could’ve just paused and watched in the morning. Gah I live for warm fuzzy feelings.
Last night I had an awesome friend over for champagne, dessert, and Chinese food (I was supposed to cook but long story short I was stranded at home after over an hour of shovelling and a newly found flat tire… Hong Kong Restaurant to the rescue)… Anyways, we got to talking about weddings since we’re both quite newlywed and our most memorable moments. Shockingly, we both had very similar good and bad stories from our day. Now I won’t say who’s mother-in-law showed up in a white gown or who’s brother-in-law got married the week before them with 3 months notice or even who’s Uncle-in-law forgot their name during a speech, but it wasn’t hers. I will tell you though, that after a few rants and a lot of laughs we both remember our wedding days as being absolutely perfect in every way.
So in short, here’s 3 things I wish every bride would do:
1. Worry Less
Your day is as good as you let it be. As a wedding planner I strive to give my clients the most flawless day possible but no wedding is flawless. There’s Always going to be something you dealt with either during the course of your planning or on your wedding day that didn’t go how you envisioned it. Maybe it’s a cranky in-law, an annoying last minute cancellation, a random new girlfriend as an uninvited guest, a late vendor, family drama, the list goes on and on. Your day will be as perfect as you let it be. So you can get mad, embarrassed or stressed, or you can let it all go and soak it all in. I wouldn’t change a single thing about our wedding day because those are now my stories to tell. And you’ll have them too. Promise.
Please just eat. Before, during, and after your wedding. Stop the “starving yourself to be a beautiful bride” fad. You’re beautiful and you’ll look beautiful on your wedding day just how you are. Also, planning is much more fun when you’re stressed and you indulge in guilt free wine and a cheeseburger. (You have my personal guarantee.)
Your wedding day is quick and there’s not enough time in the world to possibly visit with every wedding guest as much as you’d like to or should for how far they’ve come to be there for you. Finish all of your planning early so on the week of the wedding you’re stress-free enough to visit with family, wine tour (if you’re getting married here), and see guests that have come in early. I’ve had clients plan open invite beach days, BBQ’s and pool parties just to hang out with guests the days leading up to their wedding. That way, on your wedding day you can soak in all the time you want with your groom without feeling torn away to see everyone. Royce and I barely split up on our day and I loved that because we got to share our love and excitement together. The day was ours, not a day that felt like we were hosting.
I’m telling ya, these really work. Also, if you’re having a hard time dealing with a wedding issue I probably have a story to top it.