Now that I’ve flown back home to Saskatchewan for holidays, maxed out my bank account with gifts for family and friends, and settled in to the Christmas spirit, I’m realizing just how similar the stress and expectations of Christmas is to that of a wedding. There’s the big day filled with traditions, expectations, family, friends, gifts and oh the materialism and stress. It is so easy to get caught up in the expectations of a wedding, what it should have, what others want, how much it’ll cost, who’s coming, and the list goes on and on.
At the end of the day you’re engaged to be married to your bestfriend and on your wedding day I can almost guarantee that the last thing you’ll be thinking about is if you had spent the extra money on pintuck table overlays or the $50 cake topper you had to have. Make sure when you’re planning your wedding that you’re just as excited about your wedding day as you are about your marriage. The planning process will be that much more enjoyable when you let go of the financial stress and realize that you want to be married with or without meeting everyone else’s expectations.
In case you find yourself in your bridezilla moments though, here’s a few things you can try to get back in the excitement stage:
1) When doing your DIY favours or decor put on the music you’ve been thinking about walking down the aisle to or your first dance song. It’ll make you feel excited about the upcoming day and help it all feel real.
Suggestion: Vitamin String Quartet, Colbie Caillat’s song “I Do” for after your first kiss.
2) Go through some of your favourite photos with your fiance and send them to a photo lab to be printed (Costco has surprisingly good quality and they’re cheapest!). Use the photos in cheap Ikea frames on your registration or gift table. If you’re a goofy couple make sure you put those in. Don’t make your wedding more formal than you really are.
3) Plan a date night with your fiance but stay at home and picnic in the living room. Cook some of your favourite finger food and spend the night getting some quality time to help you remember why you can’t wait to marry them.
Note: Royce and I do this but make a fort over the TV and put on a movie after dinner… quirky but so fun!
I have a bride I’m working with who has been stressed about multiple dynamics that make the planning process “difficult”, but she’s told me many times that she just can’t wait to marry her fiance and that it makes whatever issues she’s dealt with worth it. These types of bride’s are the very reason I love my job so much and why her wedding is going to be amazing this summer. Brides, don’t spend more than you can afford, make sure your wedding reflects who you are and what you and your fiance want, and keep the focus on the marriage not just the wedding. I wish you all a very Merry Christmas and remember to “Keep Calm and Marry On”.