I was raised in a no bullshit family. My dad told you what you needed to hear even when it wasn’t always what you wanted to hear. And my mom never scolded you for anything you did poorly as long as “you know you tried your very best.” Which in short is the guilt-tripping way of telling you, “You know you didn’t try as hard as you should’ve and that’s why you got that mark.” So in sum, I was raised to be very in control of my life and my choices and to take both the credit and the heat for them.
As an entrepreneur, I’m thankful to have been raised like that. Even when I used to wish my dad would take pity on me with my adorable youngest child syndrome and only blame my sisters for breaking the fan when it clearly wasn’t my fault that my older sister had the idea to throw teddy bears at the ceiling fan to make them fly… Who cares if I threw them too.
Anyways, we all know I was a great kid. Moving on. I was inspired to write this blog based on the annoying amount of excuses I’ve been hearing/seeing from people lately. Your business, your job, your personal life, your relationships, your life, rises and falls on your shoulders. I don’t care how difficult your day has been, how busy you are, how successful someone else is, if you want a certain life for yourself then you need to go out and get it.
I can complain all I want that I have to pay for my own benefits and that I’m going to have to plan down to the month that we have kids. Then don’t become an entrepreneur. I can complain that other people are booking a wedding I wanted. If I really cared, then I should figure out what my business needs to increase sales and make myself the clear choice for future clients. If I want to make more money, I need to figure out what it is that’s going to increase my value as a planner so I can increase my rates. If you’re too busy for the gym, start prioritizing yourself better and make the commitment. If you don’t like the way someone treats you, then stop letting them and find a healthy way to communicate or remove yourself from the situation. If you’re constantly jealous of someone else’s life or business, start focussing on how to get there instead of comparing yourself.
Life isn’t rocket science. Stop making excuses and start finding pro-active solutions.
No more excuses.