I have a really strong sense of intuition. Not in a way that I should have my own Charmed tv show or grown up as Matilda or anything, but I get really strong gut instincts. I’m pretty sure I get it from my mom. I actually base a lot of my life and business decisions off intuition… even sometimes down to where I submit weddings for features. And I don’t think very hard about business decisions… which actually made me laugh out loud as I typed this. I’m not telling you not to think, but perhaps stop thinking so much and start doing more. When you feel that gut instinct that you want more in your business or more in your life just do it. What bigger of a nudge are you looking for? It’s the gut instincts that tell you not to do something that you need to really listen to.
Some call it intuition, some call it fate, some call it coincidence, and others call it God. I believe God knows our life path long before we ever do and that he pulls on our heart strings when we need it most. But! To each their own of what they want to call it.
Yesterday, I was in yoga and could not focus for the life of me. I swear I must have been a second behind everyone else because I just wasn’t processing what I was supposed to be doing. I looked over at Royce so annoyingly content in his practice and didn’t understand why this class was challenging me so hard. All I could think about was business. Was I doing everything I needed to be doing? Was I pushing hard enough? What should I be doing differently? Am I going in the right direction? I laid down at the end of practice in savasana and felt defeated and angry for not clearing my head during the 1 hour I had dedicated to me. I always pray in the last 5 minutes of class, usually thanking God for many aspects of my life then praying for guidance in the areas I feel I really need it. So I began to pray and then the instructor said, “The best is yet to come.” I literally almost cried. Out of all the classes I’ve been to I’ve never heard an instructor say that. It was the very line from my new Created Lovely Bride website that I’ve been stressing about for the last month. The line I’m using for all of my new bride branding. Call it whatever you want, but it was everything I needed to hear in that moment. The little nudge I needed to keep doing what I’m doing.
“Have the courage to follow your heart and your intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” – Steve Jobs
It is extremely difficult to be honest when it comes to business. It’s not “just” business, it’s your life. The day you choose to start a business that you want to make a full-time career is the day you put it all on the line. And this year has been hard. Really, really, really hard. There are days where I have serious doubts. I’m not tooting my own horn but I’m 100% sure I could have climbed the corporate ladder and done something else with my life where I’d be making a lot more money with benefits than I am right now. So easily I forget how much I hated working for other people. So easily I forget dragging myself out of bed to go to a job that didn’t excite me. So easily I forget that that wasn’t what I was meant to do.
But some days I just want business to be easy. I want to know what I’m doing all the time. I want to feel job security and know how much money I’m making that month. I want to go to work and feel social because I actually have coworkers to talk to about how their weekend went. I want to have a weekend. I want to buy work clothes and actually wear them 5 days a week. I want to be told I’m doing a good job by my boss. I want to get promoted. I want to get excited about a job opportunity or internship and apply for it. Some days I just want all of it. Every little piece of working for someone else.
I started my own business when I was 20 while finishing my event management diploma. I ran my business part-time for 3 years while finishing my Bachelor of Tourism Management then took it full-time this year after getting married and moving to the Okanagan. I wish someone would have told me how hard it was going to be. And that there would be countless days where I cried out of frustration, stressed about money, worried about success, faced a painstaking amount of jealousy, and just didn’t believe in myself. I wish someone would have told me that running your business is Nothing like what you see on Facebook and instagram. No one posts the hard stuff. No one wants to admit that some times it’s not fun. And being an entrepreneur is the furthest thing from the easy route– it just appears that way to everyone else because the people doing it love their jobs.
And that’s what led me to this. I love my job. I know very few people that can say that and as I get older I can imagine I’m going to hear it less and less. I made the right decision and every hard day is worth it but today I’m wishing for lunch with my coworkers. Time to expand the Created Lovely team.
Time to put my head down and just keep swimming. I love my business. I love my clients. I love that it’s 2:45pm in the afternoon and I’m at home blogging. Because I can! I love being the owner of Created Lovely Events. And it’s okay that it’s not easy, that’s what makes success that much sweeter.
I was raised in a no bullshit family. My dad told you what you needed to hear even when it wasn’t always what you wanted to hear. And my mom never scolded you for anything you did poorly as long as “you know you tried your very best.” Which in short is the guilt-tripping way of telling you, “You know you didn’t try as hard as you should’ve and that’s why you got that mark.” So in sum, I was raised to be very in control of my life and my choices and to take both the credit and the heat for them.
As an entrepreneur, I’m thankful to have been raised like that. Even when I used to wish my dad would take pity on me with my adorable youngest child syndrome and only blame my sisters for breaking the fan when it clearly wasn’t my fault that my older sister had the idea to throw teddy bears at the ceiling fan to make them fly… Who cares if I threw them too.
Anyways, we all know I was a great kid. Moving on. I was inspired to write this blog based on the annoying amount of excuses I’ve been hearing/seeing from people lately. Your business, your job, your personal life, your relationships, your life, rises and falls on your shoulders. I don’t care how difficult your day has been, how busy you are, how successful someone else is, if you want a certain life for yourself then you need to go out and get it.
I can complain all I want that I have to pay for my own benefits and that I’m going to have to plan down to the month that we have kids. Then don’t become an entrepreneur. I can complain that other people are booking a wedding I wanted. If I really cared, then I should figure out what my business needs to increase sales and make myself the clear choice for future clients. If I want to make more money, I need to figure out what it is that’s going to increase my value as a planner so I can increase my rates. If you’re too busy for the gym, start prioritizing yourself better and make the commitment. If you don’t like the way someone treats you, then stop letting them and find a healthy way to communicate or remove yourself from the situation. If you’re constantly jealous of someone else’s life or business, start focussing on how to get there instead of comparing yourself.
Life isn’t rocket science. Stop making excuses and start finding pro-active solutions.
No more excuses.
I only blog when I’m inspired to do so, so I’m sorry I’ve been a tad MIA. Today I’m feeling inspired though so woohoo!! Here goes…
I’m sitting in Starbucks right now filling out my Lara Casey Powersheets (google it. order it. start it. best decision you’ll ever make.) and I’m so darn excited!! It’s crazy to me how clear your life goals become when you’re asked specific questions and have to write them down to hold yourself accountable. Case in point, writing down what fires you up. What really gets you excited about your life and your goals? For me, it’s reading business books, booking design contracts, having work featured on blogs & in magazines, “wow-ing” my clients, and being unique in all aspects of my business. I don’t think I’ve ever written down what gets me excited about my career until today and it was really kind of mind-blowing.
And then I had to write down my vision for my life. I think many people have a vision of where they’d like to go but I don’t know many that actually write it down into a confined paragraph of what they really hope and dream for (without it being surrounded by money). Half way through my paragraph I naturally wrote 3 words I want to be known for: creative, loving, and empowering. When you get that question, “how would people describe you in 3 words,” it’s my dream that those would be the words. And I really want to hold my self accountable to that.
As I sit here reading this blog post I can hear Royce on the other side of the room in a client meeting for their 2014 wedding, talking about his shooting style and his background in ski photography, I can’t help but smile to myself. How cool is it to hear your husband living his dream and sounding so happy in his career?! Ah, this is the life.
P.S.- My month of eating gluten-free is going great, I’m still at hot yoga 3 days a week, and I’ve been reading multiple business books! Woohoo for goal setting.