Okay, let’s be honest here, no one knows what brides stress about more than a wedding planner. And holy, do brides ever take stress to a whole new level. I don’t think I’ve ever cared more about the absolute perfect blush pantone more than when I became a bride.
I really think I could make a small fortune selling books called “Sh*t My Brides Say” over the things they’ve said while under the stress of wedding planning. My sister apparently ignoring me for over 5 minutes only to say, “I don’t even care, I just want to be skinny”. Or another bride telling me she wasn’t stressed about the weather because she buried a sausage in her backyard to keep it from raining.
Over the past 2 seasons, I’ve noticed a common theme over what brides stress about. Here goes… my list of key stressors:
Stressor #1- Weather
How to decrease stress: Always, always, always have a rain plan. Don’t hope for the best! Have spare matching umbrellas that you pick up at Jysk for $5 each (nice black ones with wood handles). If you’re scared it’s going to be cold, look into getting heaters or have a basket of blankets available if need be.
Stressor #2- Rowdy Groomsmen
How to decrease stress: If you’re concerned your groom/groomsmen are going to be unorganized, late, drinking, etc. on the wedding day, it’s great to give them all a basic schedule at the rehearsal of where they need to be and when the next day. Have your planner check in on them in the morning to ensure they’re all ready on time. Also, it’s great to pack snacks along with drinks during photos so your bridal party is eating throughout the day. That way no one is too tipsy before dinner and no one is cranky and hungry.
Stressor #3- Hair & Make-Up
How to decrease stress: It’s not uncommon to be nervous about how you’re going to look on your wedding day. I, for one, was a complete nut about my hair. I literally had my sister on hair duty to ensure it looked good the entire time it was getting done the morning of my wedding. I recommend only booking a hair and make-up artist you can trust, ensuring you do a trial, and be aware that you get what you pay for. Don’t spend thousands on the rest of your day and cheap out on yourself. Everyone’s looking at you and feeling stunning on your wedding day is priceless.
Stressor #4- Crazy Family
How to decrease stress: No matter how crazy you think your family situation is I guarantee that there’s a family with more issues out there than yours (and I’ve probably dealt with them too). Do your best to not let family issues get in the way of enjoying your wedding. Get a picture with them anyway. Smile and pretend that problem doesn’t exist that day because it’s just not worth it. For one day just let it go. If family really doesn’t get along, make sure your seating arrangements are planned to a T and give fair warning to your photographer and planner to avoid any awkward situations.
Stressor #5: Pesky Opinions
How to decrease stress: From the second you get engaged you’re going to be getting opinions from all over the place, whether you want them or not. Stay true to your vision and rely on professionals. It’s also important that you go with your gut instinct. Just because someone else loves a different dress, doesn’t mean it’s the one for you. And maybe Auntie/Grandma/Mom/Sister/Friend/Alien doesn’t like the idea of an outdoor wedding, but you do. So that’s final. You have to love your wedding and feel like it’s a reflection of you and your fiance and that’s all that counts.
That’s my top 5 for now. In the meantime, Stay Calm and Plan On.