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Taking a Breather

A wedding day is so packed with events that it seems that it just flys by.  Regardless of the fact that you probably didn’t sleep much and were wide awake as of 6am, it’s the longest and fastest day ever.

In the whirlwind of getting ready to getting to the ceremony to photos with your photographer, I think it’s really important to consider which moments deserve the time to take a breath and let it all sink in.  Think about which moments you want to be private and which are to be shared with others.

I had 5 bridesmaids, my mom, 3 nieces, my soon to be sister-in-law, two photographers, and a videographer all in the room as I finished getting into my dress. My dad was about to see me for the first time and I took a breath and turned to everyone and asked if I could just share this moment with my immediate family and my photographers.  It was a moment that would have been completely different had everyone else been in the room and I’m so thankful I did that.  It was one of my favourite memories from our wedding day.

On my sister’s wedding night, everyone had left her hotel room, my other sister had gone to bed, and I stayed up with her for 2 hours just talking (and rehearsing her vows since she chose to memorize them).  And on the night before my wedding, she did the same for me.  We stayed up just relaxing and talking– knowing we should be sleeping but chose to embrace the moment anyhow.

Another wedding I was working, the mom came into the room just as I was talking to the bride alone in her wedding dress and her mom gave her a pin that was her late grandmothers.  As they both started to cry, I stepped out of the room and closed the door and let them have that moment.  No photographers, just them.

Whether you choose to have the photographer and videographer present for that moment is entirely up to you, but don’t be in such a rush that you forget about them.  The quiet moments might be some of your favourites from the entire day.

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Plan for the Worst

I had my first meeting as a boss last night.  That’s right, I officially have 2 assistants. What a weird feeling.  I’ve always had an assistant to help me with wedding season but this year felt really official… a legal contract and everything.  Fair to say sh*t’s gettin real. I can now legitimately use the term,”like a boss”. And you betcha I will.  Time for a new scripted coffee mug.  Moving on.

So last night they asked me, “have you ever had anything go wrong at a wedding”.  Oh man, every wedding.  Sometimes really small things and sometimes huge things, but something always goes wrong.  For my client’s blood pressure sake though, let’s switch out the word “wrong” for “different”.  Something always goes differently.  That’s the nature of a wedding day.  9/10 it has to do with the weather as every single wedding of mine either has an outdoor ceremony, outdoor reception, or in my dream wedding world, both.  The other 1/10 of the time it has to do with family drama or forgetfulness. Note, the forgetfulness isn’t on my end though I’ve been known to lose my phone in my own hand.

Past forgotten items include: Pastors suit for a destination wedding (my own actually), groomsmen ties, marriage license, dropping vases off to the florist to prep, bridal party gifts, champagne for the morning of the wedding, umbrellas, etc.  18/19 of my brides are destination weddings so it’s expected on my end that something will be forgotten when they come to the Okanagan before their wedding and pack it all in the car.

As for weather, it’s completely unpredictable.  The best you can do is always plan for the worst and hope for the best.  On a wedding day I was assisting before I started my business the weather was “too nice”.  Yes, too hot, too clear of skies, too perfect.  The bride got heat stroke and a terrible sunburn and missed her entire reception.  I now keep sunscreen and bottled water in my emergency kit and ensure my bridal party has been drinking water all afternoon.  I’ve had the windiest of wedding days, the rainiest of wedding days,  the hottest of wedding days, and the coldest of wedding days.  Here’s how I plan for them:

Hot Day Planning: Have bottled water and a basket of sunscreen at the ceremony, use fan programs, ensure there’s plenty of water for the reception, provide shaded areas for your guests at the ceremony/cocktail hour/reception, rent a tent fan if necessary, buy shakeable icepacks for groomsmen to put on their lower back.

Windy Day Planning: Have all of the girls get their hair put up by the stylist, ensure your tent has walls for all sides, turn your mics and music up for the ceremony, ensure any decor is properly weighted down.

Rainy Day Planning: Have someone designated with umbrellas to assist guests going from their car to the ceremony spot, have enough umbrellas for one per 2-3 guests, have a back-up tent on hold for the ceremony and/or reception, breathe.

Cold Day Planning: Rent propane patio heaters or a tent heater, expect to go through more wine than cocktails, have a coffee/tea/hot chocolate station, provide shawls or a basket/trunk full of pretty blankets, plan to have your bridesmaids in long dresses or matching cardigans.

The most important thing to remember is that whatever goes differently on your wedding day is just part of your story.  It will never ruin your wedding or the significance of what your wedding is all about.  I remember being so stressed about the almost black skies with pouring rain the morning of our wedding and seeing my mother-in-law in a white dress, and you know what?  The skies opened up to the most beautiful sky and my mother-in-law was actually really sweet to me on our day.  If I could take back the stress I felt that morning I would.  Our day was perfect with every flaw– and yours will be too.  I promise.  There is nothing better than getting married to your best friend.  Your wedding is the start of a marriage, something so much bigger than a little rain or heat.

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