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Outside of Weddings

We had friends over the other night for drinks and boardgames and they asked us, what do you like to do outside of weddings?  It’s a funny question because I don’t think many people know what Royce and I are like outside of work.  Even the majority of our friends only know us in a work setting.  But we’re actually quite different when it’s just us.  We’re really playful people.  For instance, two nights ago we had an impromptu dance party in our living room and last night’s date night consisted of frozen yogurt and the movie, Sharktale.  We really don’t take ourselves too seriously outside of work and I like it that way.  I spend my entire day planning and organizing, when work is done I want to play.  And with Royce being a ski photographer he definitely has a fun and adventurous side.

When we decided to have our own businesses, it was a big step for us in deciding the kind of life we wanted to live.  And for us, it meant waking up and enjoying the long days of emails and editing.  It meant a summer full of 60+ our work weeks.  It meant sacrificing benefits and consistent income.  But it also meant a life of freedom to do things our way.  Loving ours jobs is such a freeing feeling because it allows us to embrace life in a different way.

I guess the long winded answer to what we like to do outside of work is whatever we feel like.  And typically that’s finding new rustic coffee shops and restaurants, doing anything by water, and travelling!  This weekend we’ll drive back to Saskatchewan for our first wedding of the season. Our busiest season yet.  And when that’s conquered, we’ll take 2 weeks off at the end of September and cross another item off our bucket list… We’re driving to California! Oregon Coast, San Francisco, Disneyland, and many new coffee shops and campsites in between.  It’s going to be ahhhmazing!

Some of Our Bucket List includes:

  1. Driving the Oregon Coast (honeymoon)
  2. Take a 1-on-1 workshop with an elite wedding planner (Aug 2013)
  3. Driving to California (Fall 2014)
  4. Attend a styling workshop (Oct 2014!)
  5. Backpacking through Europe (Fall 2015)
  6. Building our dream home, complete with loft attic
  7. Having 3 kids
  8. Getting our photos taken by Troy & Aimee Grover

What’s on your bucket list??

 

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Share Reality

I’m a realistic.  I’d love to say I was an optimistic. But truly, I’m a realist down to my core.  I live my life seeing things exactly how they are– though I’ve been told by many I have rose tinted glasses on.  Which is probably true too.

I don’t believe in people pleasing.  I’m far too stubborn for that.  I don’t believe that you can buy happiness.  I love my job even if it means some months it’s a stretch to pay all of our bills.  And I don’t believe in waiting for what you want.  Even if it means our wedding happens in peak wedding season and babies come before we can afford a house.

I think sometimes we become so consumed with how we appear to others that we lose our sense of self and what we truly want.  In my business coaching I’ve been challenged to ask myself “why” a lot.  Why does my website look a certain way?  Why do I offer the planning services I do?  Why am I priced the way I am?  And to be honest, my answers are horrendous.  9/10 of them are because that’s what I thought I should be doing.  Since when is making my business model the same as everyone else’s what I should be doing?  I was so afraid of being different that I became generic.  I don’t want to go through the motions with my business and I definitely don’t want to go through the motions in life.  I want to be real and I want to be honest.  Not just to others, but also to myself.

I want to see more of who people truly are through their real life, blogs, and social media.  I don’t want to see another good photo.  Another good cake. Another nice table setting.  Another pretty bride in a pretty dress.  I want to know the person behind it so I can feel truly inspired by their work and their life.  I want to see reality.

Let’s start being real.

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