What’s Your Number?

You know that saying “numbers don’t lie”? Well, actually sometimes they do. Our lives are focused around numbers.  How much we weigh, how much money we make, how many weddings we’ve booked, how much debt we have, and the list goes on and on.  However, we are not defined by those numbers though it can really feel like it.

The other day I had a full out breakdown.  A tad embarrassing to admit, but I was literally just so stressed out for no realistic reason.  I was rushing to go to yoga when I realized I forgot something and was now going to miss the class.  I stomped off to shower and just bawled.  Full out bawled. This girl needed a drink.  When I set my goals for 2014 I wanted them to be clearly defined so I could properly track them.  Making promises to myself to go to yoga at least 3 days a week and tracking all of my social media growth (Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest) almost every other day.  I’ve seen more growth in the last month than in the last 6 but it’s giving me a mental breakdown.  Or at least I think so.  Yesterday I chopped off my hair 7 inches and booked a week trip to Hawaii… so… yeah.

What I didn’t realize when I set my goals was that there would be some days where I “failed”.  Where I just didn’t have the time or desire for yoga or where my Facebook likes wouldn’t go up.  I wasn’t prepared to accept that these goals would take both commitment and grace.  And whether or not my blog has 200 visits or 20, it doesn’t have to define whether or not it was worth writing.  Numbers do not define your worth or your business and you don’t have to beat yourself up about it.

The message at church last weekend couldn’t have been more perfect for this week.  It was about not allowing yourself to be defined by what others tell you instead of who you really are.  If someone doesn’t like something about you or your business, that’s okay.  That doesn’t mean you’re flawed.  I’ve been allowing my Facebook/Instagram/Pinterest numbers to control how successful I feel.  I’ve even noticed it with others, getting those annoying alerts that another business is now following your page statistics.  Why would you do that to yourself?  Your business comes with enough pressure as it is, let alone blatantly comparing your numbers to another business every time you look at your page.

The point is, don’t beat yourself up over numbers.  It’s just a number.  You’ll have good days and bad days and on those bad ones, remember that you’re not defined by whatever that number is telling you.






  1. Amy says:

    Thank you for being so honest and sharing this! I have really struggled the past few months with just working and not being a student. Since there were no more big short-term goals in my life (win an award! get a job! go to a business competition!) it was tough to feel like I was accomplishing anything. Sometimes I see how successful your business is and your beautiful marriage and all your pretty pictures and I am envious of your drive and everything you have worked so hard for starting to pay off little by little. But the truth is we all have our non-Instagram friendly moments and that’s just life. I’m glad you could share this, it’s a nice reminder for me. Haircuts and Hawaii sounds like the best medicine.

    • Nicole says:

      It’s so true though. Comparing your life to someone on social media is only ever going to disappoint you because in all reality, I’m not going to post pictures of us stressing over money or how we struggle with gossip or competitiveness in the industry. But it’s definitely there. Thanks for always taking the time to read my blogs. I love that about you! Hope you’re having an amazing Valentine’s Day xo

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